Happiness
Hello friends...
Last week I was in Bern at the train station waiting for a friend of mine and I did what I always do: I observe people. And then one thing struck me: It is extraordinary how few people walk through their lives with a smile on their faces. About 90 % of the people passing by had a sad look on their faces. This motivated me to write the following post:
I mentioned the theory of happiness already in the Good Blogger, Bad Blogger post. So this is just an addition and a clarification to it:
It is basically just one statement:
You can be happy whenever you choose to be. The only person that interferes with you being happy is yourself, i.e. when you choose not to be. The circumstances have no influence on how happy you feel. The decisive point is how you treat these circumstances. Why is that so?
1. This sounds lame, but everything has its good and bad sides. Nothing in this world is only good or only bad. The effects of every event or action can be seen from at least two sides. If you ever encounter something that is uniquely good, then you just did not search hard enough to find the other side and vice versa. Now if you face life with this type of thougth and stay in a positive thought, you will never stop until you found the good in what is happening around you.
2. I for my part was very afraid of failure before. Then I realized that my most wonderful thoughts I have had when I lived through difficult times. I wondered why that might be. And it was pretty obvious that if we fail on something or something bad happens to us, we have to go back and rethink ourselves. We have to redefine ourselves, search for a new identity because we don’t want to identify ourselves with this loss or the failure. That’s why we get to know us better in difficult times and that’s when we learn most. Now this is a wonderful thing. And that’s why I know now that happiness is choice.
3. The third thing is that we have always to believe that the positive thing will happen save that we have conclusive evidence that the bad thing will happen. I mean why would we want to waste our energy thinking that something bad happens? If we constantly think about the bad things, we will eventually act towards it. So we bring it in existence, which we clearly don’t want… If we do it with the positive, then it has the same effect. Now this does not mean that we have to walk blindly into the future. If there is conclusive evidence, we have to act against the bad, but as long as there is no evidence, we should not invest our energy in something that we don’t want to happen.
This is the complete theory of happiness. I live up to it... but again for me it is easy right now as there are only good things happening. I pray that you will have the same luck at some point in your life.
Cheers
Stefan
Last week I was in Bern at the train station waiting for a friend of mine and I did what I always do: I observe people. And then one thing struck me: It is extraordinary how few people walk through their lives with a smile on their faces. About 90 % of the people passing by had a sad look on their faces. This motivated me to write the following post:
I mentioned the theory of happiness already in the Good Blogger, Bad Blogger post. So this is just an addition and a clarification to it:
It is basically just one statement:
You can be happy whenever you choose to be. The only person that interferes with you being happy is yourself, i.e. when you choose not to be. The circumstances have no influence on how happy you feel. The decisive point is how you treat these circumstances. Why is that so?
1. This sounds lame, but everything has its good and bad sides. Nothing in this world is only good or only bad. The effects of every event or action can be seen from at least two sides. If you ever encounter something that is uniquely good, then you just did not search hard enough to find the other side and vice versa. Now if you face life with this type of thougth and stay in a positive thought, you will never stop until you found the good in what is happening around you.
2. I for my part was very afraid of failure before. Then I realized that my most wonderful thoughts I have had when I lived through difficult times. I wondered why that might be. And it was pretty obvious that if we fail on something or something bad happens to us, we have to go back and rethink ourselves. We have to redefine ourselves, search for a new identity because we don’t want to identify ourselves with this loss or the failure. That’s why we get to know us better in difficult times and that’s when we learn most. Now this is a wonderful thing. And that’s why I know now that happiness is choice.
3. The third thing is that we have always to believe that the positive thing will happen save that we have conclusive evidence that the bad thing will happen. I mean why would we want to waste our energy thinking that something bad happens? If we constantly think about the bad things, we will eventually act towards it. So we bring it in existence, which we clearly don’t want… If we do it with the positive, then it has the same effect. Now this does not mean that we have to walk blindly into the future. If there is conclusive evidence, we have to act against the bad, but as long as there is no evidence, we should not invest our energy in something that we don’t want to happen.
This is the complete theory of happiness. I live up to it... but again for me it is easy right now as there are only good things happening. I pray that you will have the same luck at some point in your life.
Cheers
Stefan
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