For it may be the spell...

Apparently, lots of my friends have temporarily or for a longer time lost their reason. It is kind of appalling how many of my friends have fallen in love these last months. I tried to warn them about the spell and told them about how crazy they are and all and they actually tried to convince me that I’m wrong…

First of all, I believe I sound like an angry old bachelor when I talk about the spell of love. Well, I am not proud of that, but in some sense I am. My personal experiences in that area are, using an euphemism, not that good. I was being silly one time in my life, and to be honest, it was once too many. Being in love means in the end being silly at times, being lost at other but in the essence not yourself. I most certainly learned my lesson and am grateful for that aspect of my silliness…

Having a relationship means having to respect someone other’s way of life and their views. It means taking care of someone else, being there in case of problems. Yes, even having the obligation to be there. It cuts into your time and freedom. It limits you in too many ways to list them here. So in the end, I hope you’ll agree that I am not at all just an angry bachelor, but a smart guy. I value my personal freedom and independence very highly, so a relationship is out of question. I don’t want to fall under the spell any time soon again.

Now, so much for myself… For all of you who recently have fallen in love out there. What you experience is fake. First of all, your own sense of measurement is getting out of hand because of what you feel, which makes you do things that you would never do if you were reasonable. And second of all, this feeling will not even last. Soon you’ll find out that your perception of the environment has been altered by your feelings and that, once the feelings dry out, your surroundings are much less pleasant than what you thought. Then you will have to content yourself with what you have in order to be happy.

Now, I have all the due respect for those, who agree to these terms and go for it. In fact I wish you all the luck. But got those who still believe that the true love exists, ye be warned. I have told you the tale now. If you play the game with the wrong incentives and get crushed, never forget that you have been warned…

Cheers
Stefan